About
The Self-Help Soul Food Chef
From trauma to wisdom. Over 30 years of confronting, processing, and overcoming severe trauma to find alignment with the divine.
30+
Years of personal healing experience
My Truth
I agreed to come and experience life BEing true authentic unconditional love. Knowing I'd experience the contrast that equates it. I am in total gratitude of everyone who participated in my recovery of this memory. It's in remembering this personal truth that I found my peace.
I no longer analyze through my own perception alone or condemn through personal judgment. I consult with my higher self and focus on what I like, love, and appreciate, giving NO attention to anything else. Meditation has been the best tool in finding and maintaining alignment.
Alignment is complete Oneness with the divine source of life.
Action alone is NOT the way to manifest desired outcomes contrary to popular belief. Attitude, mindset, mood, and the way you feel is the work to be done to tune into desired frequencies, which then allows the flow of the divine.
Once balanced and in alignment with the divine, you're vibrating in a frequency that will attract WHAT you truly desire. You can and will attract what you focus on, PERIOD! Whether in alignment or not, we manifest what we think about. Positive and negative thoughts will always come in response to what we observe.
My Journey
From Surviving to Thriving
My life has been shaped by experiences that tested every part of who I am. Through it all, the losses, the hardships, the moments that could have broken me permanently, I kept going.
Over more than 30 years, I did the work. Not just to survive, but to truly understand, process, and heal. I learned that no one could do it for me, and that was the most liberating discovery of my life.
That truth became the foundation of everything I now teach through The R.E.A.L. Healing Experience at Self Help Healing Hub. Every tool, every session, every word I share comes from lived experience, not theory.
"I no longer carry my past as a burden. I carry it as proof of what's possible."
Today I live in alignment. Not perfectly, but purposefully. And I'm here to show you that no matter what you've been through, you have everything within you to do the same.
Lived. Processed. Transformed.
What I've Come to Understand
On Attraction
I realize that I attract all experiences through my thoughts and have guidance from my spirit in order to expand, evolve, and align with my desires. "Bad/unwanted" issues illuminate my point of attraction at any given moment. Pushing against, forcing, or trying to control things won't make the desire manifest. It actually produces more of the unwanted experience.
On Breaking Cycles
The "cycles" we ARE breaking aren't just "bad" behaviors. They are patterns of thought we inherited from our environment and upbringing. In order to successfully break generational cycles of trauma and pain, we must change our way of thinking. Changing our mindset is "the narrow way" most religions refer to.
On the Spiritual War
The "spiritual war" is a personal one. It is YOU against YOU. You are the "devil" chasing you, and simultaneously the savior you're awaiting. The end of this battle will result in balance of your true self and alignment with the divine source of life known by most humans as God.
On Perspective
Changing your perspective to see people from God's point of view, compassion, and not from a wounded perception changes your vibration almost instantly. Hurt people will hurt people. It is what it is.
The absolute best and natural way to cope with depression or anxiety is to focus on this very moment. Let go of negative memories. Let go of fears about the future. Focus your attention on things, people, and memories that bring appreciation, satisfaction, and love. This will align you with the authentic YOU.
Problems and negative feelings hold energy that attracts more of the same. To process this energy, utilize The R.E.A.L. Healing Experience at Self Help Healing Hub like our extended soul family.